I started internet dating when I was 18, out of high school, and about to start college. I never really dated in high school. I had one boyfriend when I was 16, he was my first kiss, my best friend, but it turned out we both were better off as friends, and we still are.
Anyways, I opted for the internet dating because, frankly, I didn't know what else to do, any guy friends I had weren't my type or I wasn't there type (by the way, youtube 'why men & women can't be friends'). So I was left clueless on what to do, I'm underage, so bars are out of the question. So I turned to the wonderful world of the web.
I started off with one site. I simply googled 'free dating sites' (who's 18 and has a credit card and enough money for a three month membership to eharmony for $50 NOT ME!). Anyways most of the sites that popped up were 'free to search' now what this means is that you can sign up and look at 'matches' but in order to message them or read any messages you have to 'upgrade' so the one site I saw that seemed interesting and was totally free was Okcupid.
The thing with okcupid is that the way it works is that you can search and message whoever but they do have a 'match' system and what you do is you answer questions that are created by the people of Okc and other users. You also have the option to mark down what answer you want your 'matches' to choose, and also how important that answer is to you. So say the question was 'what kind of movies do you like' and you answer with 'romantic comedy' and you want your match to answer the same so you pick that then you decide how important that specific answer is to you. (Sounds complicated and I may have explained it weird but check out the site if you are interested.)
Here's an example of what the questions are:
I did meet a few guys from there, some were nicer then others, but a lot of them were just interested in one thing. That's right, sex. Unfortunately, with the internet being easier to meet people it's also easier to meet people to sleep with. You really have to learn how to tell between those genuine guys that are interested in getting to know you and those guys that wanna get to know your bed sheets.
I'm not going to sugar coat anything, I have fallen for the lines and thought 'maybe if we just get it over with things will be okay'. It isn't, because those guys got what they wanted they all stopped talking to me afterwards, and if they did talk to me it was only to see if they could get some again. I was smart though, I have and will continue to use protect, get tested regularly, and be open about my sex life to my OBGYN.
But I'll talk about safe sex later. Anyways, I signed up for another site a couple months after Okc, hoping to meet more good guys, and I did meet some, but again most of the guys just wanted one thing. I'm sure that maybe those guys were also interested in dating or whatever, but from me they just wanted sex.
I know what you're thinking, "Why keep doing the internet dating?" I'll tell you why, because the few times I did meet good guys, it was good. It may have not worked out but they were appropriate, polite, and prove that not all guys are the same. Besides, I've already learned the signs of knowing when a guy just wants sex, so all I can do is ignore them and tell them I'm not interested. Simple as that.
Anyways, I've always been one who's open and honest with my friends about how I met this guy, or what we did, and about my sex life. I don't think it's wrong or shameful that I'm open. If it helps them learn and be aware then that's all I want. That's what I'm hoping this blog turns in to, a sort of 'how to' or open for questions from people. If anything it'll just make people learn or laugh lol.
Hope you all get something out of this.
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